How to Know if a Guy Likes You

Have a crush on a guy but not sure if the feeling is mutual? Or maybe you're curious as to whether that guy checking you out is doing so out of interest in you or he's just staring at the poster behind your head? Whatever the reason for your need to know, there are a few fairly certain ways of working out that a guy's definitely interested in you––or not!

Steps

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   Examine his body language. Body language can be the "big tell" when it comes to discerning if that guy fancies you enough to date you. Interestingly, body language experts believe that while females have around 52 body language tells to show a guy that they're interested, guys show around only 10.^[1] If you subscribe to this theory, this should make your guessing a little easier! All the same, you still need to know what to look for, as well as being sure that you're not mistaking innocent gestures for calls of love––the latter mistake could prove embarrassing. Some of the signs of body language to watch for include:
   • He looks at you a lot. His eyebrow may even lift as he watches you ("the eyebrow flash" that lasts a fifth of a second). He might not even be really conscious he is watching you as much as he is.
   • He leans towards you a lot. Personal space invasion is a sign of major interest.
   • Check the direction of his hands, feet, legs, toes, etc. If they're pointed toward you, it's a subconscious indicator of his interest in you.
   • He starts grooming himself. He pulls at his tie to straighten it or he readjusts the fit of his sweater. Perhaps he runs his hands through his hair in attempt to tidy it or he reaches down to tie his shoelaces. Doing this repeatedly is similar to the actions of a male bird preening up his feathers for a display!
   • Check out how he's sitting. If you see rather manly gestures, such as sitting with open legs or placing his hands on his hips, he's trying to impress.
   • If he likes you, you may see that he rarely turns his back to you, often leans towards you, and also looks at you a lot. If he slouches his shoulders when near you, he's romantic and cares about what you have to say. If he points his shoulders and pelvis towards you while sitting, he is definitely feeling something for you.
     
     
     
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   Notice his eye contact. As already noted, a guy who is interested in you will look at you a lot, even if covertly. He may try to catch your eye or, if he's shy, he may suddenly turn his head away if you catch him checking you out. To test his interest, scan his face for four seconds, then look away (don't look any longer or it becomes awkward). Then look back––if he maintains or increases eye contact with you, he's interested. If his eyes wander to your mouth, he's definitely interested. If you feel like you have held eye contact just a fraction of a second longer than you would with anyone else, or if he looks away quickly, then there is something there. On the other hand, if he breaks eye contact with you and starts looking around the room, he's not interested in you.
   
   
   
   
   
   • A gaze that has him looking left, then sweeping over your face, then looking right is a sign he's very attracted to you.^[2]
   • Be careful not to confuse a shy guy's darting retreat from eye contact with a guy who is clearly disinterested. A shy guy who is interested will continue to steal glances at you. Be patient!
   • If you don't like the guy, it can be uncomfortable to maintain eye contact; break it off quickly and scan the room yourself, as if looking for someone else.
   • When he's around you and he says or does something funny and everyone around laughs, his eyes will flicker towards you for a second to see if you laughed too––this means he's keen to make a good impression on you.
   • His pupils may dilate if he likes you, but this is quite hard to pick up on, and you might come across as acting strangely by looking that closely into his eyes. If you're around him for a long time, it could be easier to pick up on gradually.
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   Listen to what he's saying. If he likes you, and he's nervous or anticipating the chance to get closer to you, he'll probably start talking about himself. Many times, guys feel the need to prove themselves, especially if you talk about another guy in his company.
   
   
   
   • Gauge his interest in what you have to say. It really doesn't matter what you say, it'show you say it that can tell you a lot about his level of interest. So, try this: Lean in and whisper, with your shoulder barely touching his and say something softly. To heighten the impact, steady yourself gently by brushing your arm across his back. If he moves his head closer toward you and either touches you back or maintains eye contact, he's interested in you. If he isn't interested, he'll probably step back or be very unresponsive. A really disinterested guy might even try to shoo you out of his personal space!
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   Notice his interest in touching and being touched. Touch is an important sign of interest in a developing relationship and you can assess interest both by observing how he touches you and how he reacts to you touching him. If he's keen on you, he might put his hand on yours when he laughs, he might gently brush his leg against yours but won't move it away again, or he may hug you for small things, such as greeting you, expressing emotions when telling a story or just because you "look like you need a hug." On the other hand, consider touching him to see what happens––a gentle brush of your hand against his neck, a hold of his forearm with your hand, or running your fingers across his hand after joking with him about something. He's interested in you if he responds to it and doesn't flinch away or if he moves his hand to stay on yours or on your arm or leg. On the hand, if he tenses up or moves away his hand, he's not interested.
   
   
   
   • Obviously, playboy guys (bad boys) might be very keen to spread their touching gestures around; be sure that he has more substance than this by observing how he interacts with other women in your group.
   • See if he uses any of the tricks in How to touch a girl, and see if he uses them more with you than with anyone else.
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   Watch his actions to see if he treats you differently from the rest of your group. If he's really interested in you, he may start to behave protectively toward you, or in a "gentlemanly" fashion (at least to the extent that he interprets his behavior as such). Look for signs like shifting his chair closer to yours, putting his arm around the back of your chair, leaving his jacket on the back of your chair or even going so far as to place the jacket around you to ward off your complaints of being cold.
   • Be aware that some guys flirt with other girls to get your attention. It gives him a chance to see your reaction, and helps him know if you really do like him or not. (Yes, it's an odd sort of logic, especially since you might end up so offended or confused that you just give up on him!) However, you can usually spot a "get-your-attention" flirt if, in the middle of his flirting scenario, he keeps taking the chance to look at you, seeking out your response. You can also try a quick trip to the bathroom and find yourself a sneaky observation point to check out how the flirting's proceeding. If he stops the moment you've left, it's you he's serious about, not her. Alternatively, ask a friend to do some observing for you while you're away.
     
     
     
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   Watch for him showing a sudden, previously unexpressed interest in things that you like and do. For example, if you like a certain genre of music that he doesn't know as well, he may ask you to suggest bands or artists for him to listen to. Or, he may have gone to the trouble of finding out that a favorite band of yours is playing next weekend and mention to this, with or without a request to go and listen together. And, if you introduce him to a TV show that he didn't really know about and that becomes his new favorite thing, that can potentially be a sign that he likes you, especially if he goes out of his way to catch up with you to discuss the show's unfolding plot.
   
   
   
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   Check for signs of nervousness. Signs of nervous laughter, sweaty palms, deep breaths, fidgeting, or possibly even looking away quickly when you notice he is watching you, can all be signs of an attraction towards you. If he is nervous about making an impression on you, it means he's trying hard and you are probably very close to being able to start making moves.
   
   
   
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   Pay attention to his friends. If they know he's interested in you, they might tease him subtly when you're around, hint to you that he likes you, or even try to find out if you like him. Study their reactions to your presence––do they smile? Do they turn to him? Do they smirk in a way that suggests they know something that you don't?
   
   
   
   • Be careful if a friend of his makes suggestions that a guy likes you but all of the other indications tell you otherwise. Sometimes friends have reasons of their own for ensuring that any chances of you getting together are ruined, including catapulting you into making a fool of yourself.
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   Look to see if he imitates you. Mirroring each other's actions is a sign of mutual like and generally, it's subconscious. If you notice that he has been copying your gestures frequently, there is a high probability that he fancies you. You can test this by mirroring his actions too, for example, touch your hair when he touches his, brush your face when he brushes his, sit the way he is sitting, etc. The subconscious signals will be screaming "I like you too!"
   • Following you can be another sign; for example, if you buy lunch and sit at a table and he edges as near to, or even on the same, table as you, he is probably trying to get closer to you. Just be sure you're not confusing this action with there being a lack of space to sit anywhere else!
     
     
     
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    Pay attention to gentle, friendly teasing. If a guy teases you in a friendly and fun manner, it could indicate his interest, especially if he's young. Provided this isn't his modus operandi with every girl he flirts with, it's a sign that he's singled you out for attention and is trying to use his wit to charm you, in that awkward way of using humor to cover up true intentions. Of course, if he says something unkind or unfortunate, don't feel you have to excuse it––point it out if he offends you; it's best he knows now that you won't take nonsense than to discover it later.
    
    
    
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    If he hits you or playfully punches you on your arm, this may mean he likes you. A guy may gently hit or punch you on the arm as a covert, "manly" way of getting to touch you without making it too obvious what his intention is. If he finds that you don't pull away too much when he does this, he might find the courage to proceed to more gentle ways of touching you. Of course, this doesn't mean you need to sit there in pain if he actually hurts you––be assertive enough to point out that it hurt! You can salve his pride by saying something about not minding him touching you but to please watch out for your sensitive bony bits! And if you're the kind of girl who finds the play punching a bit of fun, give him a playful knock right back.
    
    
    
    • Play punching can send mixed signals. It could mean "I treat you like one of the boys" and signal friendzone antics only. Check out whether he does this to other girls in your mutual group. Moreover, if he continues to think that play punching you is a fun way to hang out, you might be dealing with someone who is never going to get past this immature display of affection; don't let it go on indefinitely.
    • If you don't like it, say so immediately. You are entitled to ask someone not to harm you, even if the gesture is well intentioned.
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    Acknowledge any compliments that come your way. If you do your hair or makeup differently one day, and the guy notices, that's a very good sign that he likes you. Most guys won't notice, or if they do, they won't be bothered to say anything unless they're totally into you. Anything like, "You look nice today," "I like that shirt," or even "Did you do your hair differently today? It looks nice," are all indicators that he could be interested in you.
    
    
    
    • Note: If this guy is a good friend of yours, compliments won't necessarily be indicators of romantic interest. It could just be him being a truly good friend.
    • Not all guys are this straightforward about compliments, so don't be worried if he doesn't compliment you.
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    Watch for him noticing 'masculine things' on you. For example, some of your dad's aftershave rubbed off on you when you hugged him. Your crush may say "is that aftershave on you?" Noticing this can indicate that he thinks the scent comes from another guy (and not your dad!), revealing some vulnerability about losing you out to someone else. This could also apply to having, carrying or wearing things that he might think belong to another guy.
    
    
    
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    If he chats to you often on a social networking site, it may mean that he likes you. After all, when online there are many things competing for his time, like games, connecting with mates and checking out sites that might not be so interesting to you… Of course, he could also just be talkative, friendly, or even bored, so don't assume he's into you just for chatting––this should be treated as one extra indicator along with some of the others outlined above.
    
    
    
    • If he puts an 'x' sign on the end of everything he says to you, don't assume it means he likes you. It could just mean that he perceives you both as good friends or that he's just used to ending his chats that way.
    • If he says, "I know something you don't know," then this could mean that he likes you and is playing a little guessing game. Or it could just mean he's doing the usual social media thing of spreading information for fun, like the discovery of a new planet or finding the cure to cancer, etc. Use the context to judge the import of any such online personal game playing.
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    Watch to see if he has suddenly developed a habit of turning up where you happen to be. If he suddenly seems to be in certain places at certain times of the day where you wouldn't necessarily expect to see him, it may be that he's taken to deliberately "finding" opportunities to bump into you. If it happens a lot in a short space of time, it's probably no coincidence but a concerted effort to catch up with you as much as possible.
    
    
    
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    Be receptive to his signals. If he shows genuine interest in you, (for example, he smiles at you a lot whenever the two of you pass each other or he goes out of his way to say hello to you), be friendly and polite back. If you've already decided that he's someone you'd like to date, don't let it go too long before facilitating an opportunity for the two of you to get together to talk in a quiet place. On the other hand, if he's not your type or you've changed your mind about flirting any further, be honest and let him know that you're flattered but you're not available.
    
    
    

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Tips

• If you like him and you're confident, ask him out. While some of the rule books suggest that this is not a good idea, when all the signs read right and things aren't progressing as fast as you'd expect, don't be shy. He might be so shy that unless you make the first move, it'll never happen!
• Here are a few more tests to try out to test his interest in you:
  • The Clock Test: To see if a guy has been checking you out, abruptly look at the clock, then look at him really fast. If he followed your eyes to the clock, he was staring at you and was startled by your sudden movement that following your eyes is a reflex to them.
  • The Pencil Test: If you have a pencil, "accidentally" break it. If you ask him to sharpen it for you, and he says "Yes", he could be into you. If he says "No", no hard feelings, he could be shy. If he gives you a Mont Blanc pen in its place, he's almost ready to marry you.
• If his ex seems to hate you, the reason may be because he's expressed an interest in you that she's caught wind of.
• Notice how he acts around you compared to the way he acts around his friends. Do you see any differences?
• Does he talk about you to his friends? If you feel confident to ask his friends if he talks about you, it might indicate interest. When asking his friends, try not to make it obvious that you're interested that way they won't suspect anything. Be very careful though; many times they'll report back to him that you were sniffing around and it's not the most seemly way to find out another person's interest.

Warnings

• There is a difference between fast glances to check each other out and staring. Don't fall into the latter category––you'll scare him off. Equally, he might be seeming to look at you a lot just because you're checking him out a lot and he doesn't really have a chance to look elsewhere! Be patient and observe carefully.
• Take care not to misread his signals just because you want to be with him so much. For example, affectionate teasing might occur just because it's his way of dealing with females in general. He may not even realize that he's making you swoon every time he pokes good-natured fun at you!
• Watch out for the subtle guys. If he asks you something that could potentially be a date but you're not really sure, make sure it's clear before you agree to it. It can be uncomfortable when one of you thinks you're on a date and one of you thinks you're not.
• If you're just going to a "notch on his belt" and used for "bragging rights", he's the wrong kind of guy. If you feel pressured to do things that you don't want to, don't give in and reconsider whether it's worth pursuing the relationship any further.
• Avoid asking your friends to ask him if he likes you. It's embarrassing to both parties and it often makes it so awkward that he'll just drop pursuing you.
• If he seems more obsessed with your chest than your face, he may not like you for you. He could just be looking for a "good" time.
• Know the signs of a guy who is not interested: He has crossed his arms or legs defensively, moves from foot to foot when standing, breaks eye contact each time you try to maintain it, steps away from you when you try to get closer, rubs the bridge of his nose (this is body language for a negative decision about you), clasps his hands behind his back (you're possibly frustrating him) or draws back if you touch him. If he rubs/scratches his nose or covers his mouth when talking to you, it might mean that he's lying. Negative facial expressions, such as yawning, looking around the room or looking bored, should also warn you off thinking he likes you.

How to Be Enigmatic

Mysterious, hard to fathom, ambiguous, leaving people wondering... each of these traits goes toward making a person seem enigmatic. An enigmatic personality is about being imaginative, replacing the banal with the creative and always surprising people with the depths of your knowledge and charm. Leave people wondering and they'll be curious to know a great deal more...

EditSteps

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   Keep silent more often than not. Be prepared to leave some things unsaid and to hold back on sharing your thoughts all of the time. Talk when you know it's essential but don't speak every chance you get. Not everything needs to be commented on––saying things just for the sake of being seen to be "participating" or "one of the crowd" is often simply "noise". Most importantly, your existence doesn't depend on senseless chatter; forming a powerful impression is often about how you carry yourself, how you restrain yourself from idle commentary and how you interject intelligently when it really is a purposeful and meaningful thing to do.
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   Don't be so keen to fill in the gaps. Pauses in conversation have a power all of their own; they can allow for reflection, they can permit the speaker to regain composure and they can also leave plenty of time for the listener's imagination to conjure up whatever it will. Sometimes it's not so much what you say as what you do not say.
   • When someone says the metaphorical "jump!", don't be so ready to ask "how high?" Take your time to respond to demands and requests from other people. Ask yourself––and them––questions about their motives. Tell people you would like to think about it and that you'll get back to them.
   • If someone badgers you to respond to them quickly, ask yourself "what's the rush?" and politely but firmly tell them that you will answer in due course. Permit yourself the time to weigh up options and to make good decisions; this is such a lost art for many, that it will seem rather enigmatic and alluring.
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   Be cautious about how much information about yourself you share. In a world where we're constantly told that we have to speak up or risk never been noticed, too much talking and giving away all of your intent, dreams and desires can result in information overload and stereotyping. With nothing left to share, the mystery has gone and it can sometimes be hard to change people's perceptions of you because they've heard too much about who you think you are now. Don't box yourself in––be judicious with what you tell acquaintances and strangers about yourself; be more generous with those closer to you.
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   Be creative in your conversations with other people. Small talk by nature tends to be very banal and tedious. It's about the weather, work hassles, childcare, traffic snarls, more weather, the cost of living, etc. Ultimately, small talk is not the domain of an enigmatic person. Be prepared to tackle the slip into banality through creative responses:
   • Whenever the conversation descends into the same old worn-out topics, comment on how extraordinary you find it that people resort to such typical topics when they have a chance to come together. Then, change the topic to something far more meaty and enticing; the more complicated and fascinating, the better for your enigmatic status.
   • Change typical statements and responses into poetry, lyrics or philosophizing. Don't give the usual responses to questions like "How are you?" and don't explain your basic feelings such as "I'm thirsty" in such monotonous ways. Be creative and say things that really make people sit up and take notice. For example, explain that you're thirsty in fun ways such as "everywhere I look I see fountains of beer, willing me to come bathe in them".
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   Expand your vocabulary. Spend time every day learning a few new words and practicing them in your usual conversations. The broader your vocabulary, the more fascinating you will sound to others and the more enigmatic you will seem when they're forced to check their dictionary to truly grasp what you're on about.
   • Work your brain. Let out your clever side by feeding your mind with good information and mental exercise. Do obscure riddles. Put together puzzle rings. Do word and number puzzles. Read books of obscure facts. Push yourself to learn something you thought you couldn't, like physics, cooking or another language. Challenging yourself will keep you engaged in life and thereby interesting to others who will constantly wonder how you manage to be so clued in and aware.
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   Keep your plans to yourself. Apart from those closest to you, there's no need to broadcast your whereabouts all the time. Never mention where you're going. If someone asks, reply in kind, such as "same place as you eventually" or "now that's a good question, I just wish I had the answer", and so forth.
   • If you plan to move away, take an item and give them to someone you care about. Tell them it's something to hold. This is the sort of behavior others always find mysterious.
   • Remove the location information and updates from your social networking accounts such as Twitter and Facebook. Online, stop calling yourself a citizen of a particular nation––you belong everywhere in the cyberworld.
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   Make people work hard to get close to you. While you may have an abundance of trust, an enigmatic person also exercises a great deal of discretion in whom they place that trust. Those whom you call your nearest and dearest must earn that place by demonstrating their trust in you and not doing anything to undermine your trust in them. Equally, realize that you must also earn people's respect; it's something that can't be bought or forced.
   • Developing closeness with trust is a two-way street––you need to learn when it's okay to let people close enough to you. Even enigmatic people have people in their lives that they can totally rely on; it's about going for quality rather than quantity.
   • Be discerning in whom you let get close to you. Every person who is close is potentially able to expose your habits, likes and dislikes, preferences, daily routine, and the like, thereby decreasing your enigmatic factor and opening you up to prying. Choose to be close only to those who respect your need for privacy, humility and the quiet approach to life.
   • Do not suffer fools. If someone turns out to be very different from the person you thought they were and behaves crassly or stupidly such as gossiping, backstabbing, being dull or belittling you, do not hesitate to distance yourself from this person. Unless (if ever) this person is able to resolve his or her issues, this is not someone to be close to.
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   Be stoic. Stoics control their emotions and passions so that the front they present to the world appears composed, calm and unruffled. This isn't to say that you lack passion or emotion; rather, you choose not to debase yourself by acting in ways that appear overly emotional, reactive or ridiculously excited. Instead, choose to take life as it comes, react calmly to all sorts of news that comes your way and have a "well, after I've looked into it, I'll make up my mind" approach to everything. Overreacting, behaving childishly, jumping with excitement or collapsing with worry are not something you do; enigmatic people do not give much away, ever.
   • Steer clear of emotions and keep non-judgmental.
   • Respond through clearheaded and thoughtful actions, not through crazed emotions.
   • Take care with how you show pain. Where possible, don't show it outwardly. However, don't be a martyr either––if you have ongoing pain, physical or emotional, see your doctor. After all, what happens in private stays private and enigmatic people strive to stay healthy (because that means less pain ultimately).
   • Work out, keep fit and eat healthily. Look after your body and health so that you can stay strong in any situation.
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   Live in the present. The past has passed and you don't buy into nostalgia or weeping for the victim you once were. In fact, enigmatic people never see themselves as victims; things happen, you learn, then you move on. In particular, avoid being drawn into conversations about the past with others; whenever your colleagues, friends, teammates or whoever seem to be getting bogged down waxing about the "good old days" as if today doesn't matter, set them straight. Change the subject and return them to the here and now.
   • Never discuss former flames, loves, notches on your belt, conquests, whoever. If there is pain from a breakup or loss, speak to someone confidentially, such as a therapist or a trusted best friend to help you move on but never divulge such information any more widely. Your past is not fodder for today's banal bar chats.
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    Be kind and be reassuring. Enigmatic people may seem mysterious but they're not mean spirited or thoughtless. Indeed, your strong presence is often found to be reassuring because people know that you don't gossip, breach trust or hang others out to dry. You are trusted and people are likely to bring their confidences and concerns to you. When this happens:
    • Be kind. Compassion is both a way to support others and to maintain your enigmatic presence; in comforting others, the focus is always shifted away from you, leaving people in awe at the boundless consideration you have for fellow human beings.
    • Defend those in need. You may seem untouchable, even tough maybe, but you know that justice matters. Stand up for someone when they're bullied, harmed or treated poorly. The ability to stand up and take a principled stand is a sign of strength and a willingness to resist intimidatory attitudes around you, giving you a hero-like quality in a firmly quiet and unassuming way.
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    Be fair minded and willing to break the rules where the rules are stupid. Stupid rules are made to be broken when they don't serve their purpose; everywhere in life there are self-imposed rules, workplace rules, school and college rules and many other rules. While many rules are handy and important for the good functioning of our lives, many other rules are past their use-by date or make another's life easier at the expense of someone else. Rules breakers are independent thinkers who start movements, sway crowds and create better futures because they see outside the box and are not afraid to challenge what deserves to be changed.
    • Know the difference between a stupid rule and a valid rule. A stupid rule might be one that stops some people from achieving their full potential but allows more privileged people to get what they want; or, it might be one that favors conformity over innovation and creativity; or one that tells people to work harder and faster when to do so is harming them. A valid rule might be one that ensures that people don't harm themselves or others or one that ensures that everyone's opinions have been taken into account. Determining the stupidity or validity of a rule will depend on the context and your understanding of how things work in the given situation. Also, be sure to fully understand the consequences of not going along with the rules; typical responses include social ostracism, getting fired and losing out on things you wanted. Make sure that you can handle the consequences, or be so subtle nobody knows about your involvement or how the changes happened!
    • Do not confuse breaking the rules with breaking the law. Rules are all those little guidelines, preferred routines, reglets and the like, enshrined by workplaces, clubs, associations, etc.; and while many of these rules ensure the smooth running of a particular event, organization or business, they're not always clear, evident or even appropriate. Laws, on the other hand, are socially condoned, legislatively mandated realities backed by enforcement practices. Laws are things that everyone has agreed to follow together one way or another so that society functions properly as a whole. If you don't like the laws, there are many legitimate, non-violent ways to get them changed eventually and perhaps you could even make a career choice out of this. But don't break laws or you spite yourself alone and time spent in jail or shunned by society is time lost forever, let alone busting your enigmatic status.
    • Be certain that your sense of "justice" is not skewed. Those who feel victimized, angry or fearful tend to have a skewed vision of what is just. True justice is based in objective, reasoned and carefully considered reflection. It may take you years to be sure that your concerns are just but better that than to blindly create a fuss over something that really only concerns your preferences.
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    Pursue unusual interests and hobbies. Let out your inner weirdness by following an interest or hobby that is out of the ordinary and definitely something that arouses curiosity in others. Collect strange things, go on treks to places few visit, take photographs of street grates, disappear in the back shed for hours on end "doing something mysterious", attend conventions about outer space aliens, and so forth. Whatever you choose to do, don't follow the pack; even if you pursue a fairly conventional hobby or interest, find an aspect of it that others have neglected or haven't yet realized exists and make the most of becoming the foremost expert in it.
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    Be prepared. Always have the right tool for everything with you. Think ahead to the places you will be for the day and the types of things that might confront you and be sure to have the items on you. For darkness, have a phone with an in-built flashlight. For spills, have a stain wipe to offer the hapless victim. For cuts, pull out a Band-Aid and a little antiseptic cream. For thirst, offer your spare water. Always be prepared so that others are in awe of your effectiveness in any situation.
    • Enigmatic people are not likely to want to lug around a large bag of equipment. Also know how to make the most of objects around you for safety, emergency and survival purposes. Take a course in first aid; know how to use things in nature for eating, drinking and sheltering; be aware of how to use everyday objects to fix stains, mend rips and put hair back into place. Knowing how to make the most of everything is definitely the sign of an enigmatic person because it draws together self-assurance, deep knowledge, capability, ability to stay calm and composed under pressure and a willingness to give new things a try.
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    Stay relaxed. Above all, enigmatic people are not fussed about what others think of them. Nor do they try to hard to cultivate charm––charm is a by-product of being calm, thoughtful, considerate and ready to challenge the status quo. Charm is not something that can be plucked off a shelf and worn (although enigmatic people should always take care to present themselves well through good grooming and neat clothes). By staying relaxed and at ease about yourself and the situations you find yourself in, you will always manage to exude both enigma and charm.

EditTips

• If part of the reason you want to be enigmatic is to get dates, you'll have to be a bit more than enigmatic. Work on your charm, considerateness for others and keeping your appearance in good shape.
• One good character that is a prime example of enigmatic is Lelouch Lamperouge from "Code Geass". Check him out to see what a real enigma is like.

EditWarnings

• Don't be someone you aren't. Never forget who you really are.
• Don't break the law. You know the consequences if you do. It is never recommended.
• Communicate and act with non-violent intent at all times. Violence is a sign of losing control, something enigmatic people never do.
• Don't confuse being enigmatic around others with being an enigma to yourself. Self-knowledge is vital to leading a good life and it is something that you need to work on discovering all of your life. Do not neglect this part of your self care––read widely, keep your thoughts in a journal, be open to new experiences, challenge your fears and misunderstandings and always be willing to learn.